Live Without Judgement
“Live Without Judgment”
Written by Eva Mondor
“The whole course of human history may depend on a change of heart in one solitary and even humble individual. For it is in the solitary mind and soul of the individual that the battle between good and evil is waged and ultimately won or lost.” -M. Scott Peck
The mind can either create a prison or a palace, poverty or prosperity, joy or happiness, excitement or dread, optimism or pessimism, suspicion or trust, love or hate. We get to choose. And although the brain is a magnificent instrument we ineffectively use our mind to create and/or problem solve life situations. Because of our over reliance on logic and analysis as a form of leverage in life we have created separation and competition instead of unity and collaboration as a form of survival within our intimate relationships and society as a whole.
We do not rely on the power of acceptance and allowing to create harmony instead we use force, control and manipulation as a method to hold life together. But it is for this very reason that our society is literally falling apart. As a result we have adopted “an every man or women for themselves” attitude. We judge people, point fingers or blame, make accusations of others to ease the anxiety about our own choices and jump to conclusions or make assumptions to feel superior to others.
We have been offered many freedoms in this democracy, with speech being one of them. However, we have abused this privilege and have used our words as swords to destroy or personally gain. We find pleasure from countless media programs and publications dedicated to the humiliation and attack on the perceived limitations of humanity. Maybe it’s a performer who has gained weight or fallen during a performance, or a public official who verbally stammered on their words or a citizen who was caught doing something inappropriate. We hold people up on pedestals while eagerly waiting for the person we just put in power to fall from grace or fail. But if we would use our words to hold each other up in love with the same conviction and strength as we do to tear each other down we would be in a much more prosperous place. Not only in society, but within our own intimate relationships.
When we live by the minds desire to separate and not the hearts desire to unit we abandon one another. The sprit of unity is created by accepting individual differences, helping each other with our limitations and not in abandoning and turning against one another.
I recently heard about a woman, who had survived some of our greatest social atrocities, who was so troubled by the state of our country, the loss of community and value for human life. When she was asked how she could possibly think that this time was worse than the Great Depression, World War II and the horrors of the Holocaust, she said “It was different then, because we all knew we would get through it together, but now no one is there for anyone.”
We live in a very precarious time. We are to work together not against each other. As a society we turn our eyes away with judgment and malice from the desperate issues of abuse, poverty, illness and helplessness. We literally walk over the homeless or mentally ill with an opinion that they are on some level not worthy of our love and devotion.
But when we live from the center of our hearts we are then able to perceive the world through the lens of love, compassion, acceptance and patience. Like it or not we are all in this together and our very life purpose is to learn how to unite these differences. So when you want to point a finger, judge or hold tight to an opinion just remember, we all have a unique way of taking on this challenge called life. As M.Scott Peck said “Life is complex. Each one of us must make his own path through life. There are no self-help manuals, no formulas, no easy answers. The right road for one is the wrong road for another…The journey of life is not paved in blacktop; it is not brightly lit, and it has no road signs. It is a rocky path through the wilderness. ”
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